It Can Be An Emotional Rollercoaster
When you have a spouse or partner struggling with drinking or with drug addiction it can be quite an emotional roller coaster. Alcohol or drug rehab is a step in the right direction, but addiction recovery can have its ups and downs as well. Even in sobriety, a rocky road is ahead. A common question that a spouse may have is “How do I support my husband/wife in addiction recovery?” Today we provide you with 5 helps on how to offer this support.
1. Let them Work their Program
First of all you must understand that for a while it can be important that your loved one put their sobriety first in their life. Some spouses have been known to feel left out and jealous as their significant other is going to meetings and making new friends.
Do not do this. Recovery is a process and for a while it needs to come first. So, let them work their program, be with a sponsor, and attend meetings. You can be supportive in this. Try not to be too involved.
This can have a negative response. If your spouse wants to share with you how they are doing in their program, they will.
If they do not want to tell you how meetings went, or what they talked about with a sponsor, do not take it personally, just continue to try and support and encourage them as they work their program.
2. Take Care of Yourself
We understand that you can be hurting from a loved one’s substance abuse as well.
We have a family program at Cirque to help loved ones of residents by providing workshops, educational support and therapies to get the ball rolling. As your loved one works their program, you too have to take care of yourself.
Sadly, in most homes where alcoholism or drug addiction is evident, dysfunction, unhealthy roles and boundaries have been established. By getting help for yourself you can learn to create healthy boundaries and establish the roles of your spouse.
Al-anon can support you in your efforts. Continuing in personal therapies and couple therapies can also help you with communication in the relationship.
4. How Much Will My Copay Be?
While insurance plans may cover certain services for free, for others, they require you to pay a fixed charge for a service. You may need to pay $20 for an appointment with a general doctor or $100 for an office visit. This charge is called a ‘copay’. You can ask your insurance representative what the copay will be for various parts of the treatment process.
5. How Much Is My Deductible?
A deductible is the amount of money you have to pay before your insurance provider starts covering the costs, and it varies according to your specific plan. Generally, more expensive plans have lower deductibles. You can clarify the value of your deductible with your provider.
6. What Length of Treatment Program Does My Insurance Plan Cover?
At Cirque Lodge, our treatment programs can vary from a few weeks to several months, depending on your needs. Your insurance provider may only cover a portion of this time.
Sobriety is rewarding
When all is said and done, you will find that the rewards of a healthy relationship and sober spouse far outweigh any of the struggles and problems that can come with the transition of addiction recovery. Be prepared for those initial ups and downs and be supportive and encouraging as they work their program. People can and are recovering from this disease every day. By supporting your spouse and taking care of yourself, your relationship can recover as well. The hopelessness, uncertainty and fear you had in your spouse’s substance abuse can be replaced with love, joy and trust in long-term recovery.